Many clients and writers come to me expressing concern that they feel stuck. In response I ask them, “What does this stuck look like, feel like?” (Write about that.) Usually this stuck-ness is described in judgmental terms of what they feel they should be doing. The context of this stuck-ness usually is a busy, full life with movement and engagement. Just not movement in that one area. Their stuck-ness is particular to their writing or some unfulfilled wish. They have a creative commitment and are not acting on it. So, they feel stuck. And this stuck-ness acts like a poison – or ink in a glass of water. It touches everything and makes them feel as if their life is stuck. Often confusion comes with this feeling of stuck-ness. Where do I go from here? What should I be doing? Why am I having trouble moving forward on this? Who do I think I am? What possibility should I pursue? Should I just stop writing altogether? Along with this confusion comes a desperation to find some solution to their feelings of stuck-ness and confusion. Every condition and situation holds a story, holds something for us that can and will move our lives and intentions forward. Often when we are stuck or confused we simply are not ready to act. As long as you are waking up and holding some intention in your heart when you become fully ready, what you need to do to live or write forward will be there for you. When we hold so many ideas or options or possibilities in our minds (this can cause us to be stuck and confused), this can mean the time is not right to act on these possibilities. We can create more difficulty in our lives when we hold on to all these options and try to force ourselves to choose and to act. It may not be time yet for you to take that next big step. This confusion is the next step. Listen to that. . . write about that. ! Let yourself be with the confusion and feeling stuck. Notice what comes up when you are conscious and compassionate with yourself. As long as you are showing up in your life – what wants to manifest in your life will also show up. The time to act or move forward on a project or story will become known to you. Simply stay in the conversation. Let your ideas and possibilities cook for the time they need and then be aware of when it is time to act. To write. To leave. To begin. To finish. To continue. To push the send button. "Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever I may be in, therein to be content." –Helen Keller
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Madeline
9/2/2020 10:27:51 am
Julie - on being stuck. So helpful. And the photo looks just exactly like the stuck-edness I feel.
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Mary Mink
9/2/2020 01:21:43 pm
All month I have been listening and writing, the most writing in a very long time. What I hear is not what I expected. It is interesting, deep, lifelong. Now where does it lead? More listening to come. I no longer feel stuck. I'm curious!
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Barbara Kane
9/20/2020 08:28:05 am
Thank you Julie. Your words are so helpful and gentle. I especially love the line, "As long as you keep showing up in your life - what wants to manifest in your life will show up...Simply stay in the conversation."
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