Happily Ever After

After the making of breakfasts, and the hours, days, years of working, after the losses and dealing with aging or sickness, after putting the baby to sleep, getting the daughter off to school, after the love-making and the arguing, after the garden has been planted, weeded and harvested, after the son has been married and the animals vaccinated, after the house has been repainted and tree planted, after the second diploma, after teaching others, healing others, after the filling of another journal, after the loss of something precious that can’t be found, after the long trip abroad or the staying … Continue reading

Is That So?

It’s a powerful thing and a great accomplishment,–– to write and live your own story. Sometimes I write a story out so I can better live it. Sometimes I try a story on for size and see how it fits. I write to explore, understand and transform ideas. Rewriting the written word, and reframing my life, are tools that keep me focused and content. An exercise I suggest for writers is to take a favored myth or teaching story (such as the one below) and rewrite it, reinvent it as your own. Use it to transform or reframe something you … Continue reading

How My Blind Dog Sees

 The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. –Marcel Proust Recently I had a conversation with a mentor of mine; we discussed the possibility of working together on a project. I took this to be a great compliment and, after the conversation, I was flooded with a sense of gratitude that was so strong, it brought tears to my eyes. Had his generosity elicited this response? Or was it because I knew that collaboration with him could open myriad of inner and outer doors for me? I wasn’t sure. The next day … Continue reading

An Unexpected Visitor

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. – Rumi   Then, write about … Continue reading

It’s Never Too Late to have a Second Adulthood

There is a bumper sticker that says: “It’s never too late to have a second childhood.” But I don’t want a second childhood––I’ve earned a more expansive and mature place in this world. I prefer to experience this next stage of life as my second adulthood. It’s never too late, as Joseph Campbell says, to follow our bliss. I am determined to have a second adulthood as my daughter ventures out on her first. I turn 60 this summer and our only daughter leaves for college in the fall. Approaching this time as my second adulthood brings to mind how … Continue reading

This Is Your Destiny

Destiny is wasted on those that go in search of it. Our destinies are not something to find but to release. Yes, like an acorn, our greatest capacities and creations are within us from birth. For us writers this means we experience the most resistance in bringing forth the writer in us. At the same time this is also where we will feel the most push (that energy of that acorn wanting to turn into the big oak tree against the hard outer shell). Push Resistance We want to write. We feel contentment in “having written” something. We believe our … Continue reading

The Writer’s Tree of Life

A central meaning associated with the Tree of Life is how life itself began. It further symbolizes the origins of all creation and origination and how everything is interconnected and dependent. The Tree of Life shows us how life is created, becomes manifest and then nourishes other forms of life. So then, how does a writer come to manifest him or herself as a writer? Where is your Tree of Life? How do we create our writing and then bring it to life, nourishing ourselves and other living beings? We design our own Tree of Life as a way to … Continue reading

Voice of The World

Poets voice the world. (Artists vision the world). I would not have made it through my teenage years without such favored poets as Carl Sandburg, Leonard Cohen, or Bob Dylan. I have relied on both known and unknown poets my entire life. My free writing retreat days at my home are in remembrance of William Stafford, poet and activist. In recent years many local poets have graced my life, helped me to hear the soul of the world. Everyone of my books features poets because they help me share my message with you, my readers. Today’s blog is written by one of … Continue reading

How To Start Over and Finish “IT”

Starting over doesn’t mean to start over “at the beginning” but to start over from where you are now. Starting over is just as much of an attitude as an approach to the writer’s life. Most of us tend to write our first pages, introductions, or first chapters over and over. Or we write lots of “starts” to great stories, piling them up like a hoarder for that special time. This becomes a seductive loop of feeling as if we are moving forward when in fact we are stuck in a cluttered place. Here are three ways to generate momentum and … Continue reading

Turning a Fall into a Leap

There are so many ways we may find ourselves in a fall. We lose a job. We are confronted with economic loss. A friend betrays us. Our marriage ends. We get passed up. We get a devastating diagnosis. Or, we feel the fall of aging or some version of the impermanence of life. What was fulfilling is now generating unhappiness or what once felt true no longer does. In some way or another we are kicked out of our tree and are in a fast fall to the hard ground below. Sometimes we are at the top of our tree … Continue reading